Speaking with a Westminster carer of 51 years

“I am part of his support”

Patricia, who lives in Pimlico, has been her husband’s carer since 2006.

Patricia’s husband has early-stage dementia, which primarily affects his short-term memory and concentration. She helps him with daily activities like washing, dressing, preparing meals, taking medicines, and getting ready for bed. Around the house, Patricia handles housework and grocery shopping. They like to watch British comedy like Dad’s Army together.

To keep his mind active, Patricia plays puzzles and number painting games with him. In addition to all the things to do at home, Patricia organises and attends GP and hospital appointments. She has colour-coded his medical files, organised by heart, kidney, and other conditions.

Being a carer is to be positive and have the patience of a saint, as well as a good sense of humour.” - Patricia

She enthuses about the borough’s provisions. She has close links with The Carers’ Network, which receives funding from the council to support carers in Westminster, ensuring their work is recognised, and they can be healthy and live well.

Councillor Nafsika Butler-Thalassis, Deputy Leader and Cabinet Member for Adult Social Care, Public Health and Voluntary Sector at Westminster City Council said:

Patricia’s dedication and resilience as a carer exemplify the invaluable role that carers play in our community. Her commitment not only provides essential support to her husband but also highlights the stellar work carried-out by carers across the borough. Westminster Council is proud to fund organisations like The Carers’ Network, ensuring that carers receive the recognition and assistance they deserve."

Patricia emphasised that taking time out is key when caring for someone. “Rest. Stay in contact with close family members and close friends.” Patricia’s husband, despite recently asking her questions about where they live – as his memory begins to change – has said that unpaid carers are the lifeblood for “those of us who are still seeing, hearing, and feeling.”

More information about The Carers’ Network can be found here: https://www.westminster.gov.uk/health-and-social-care/adult-social-care/support-carers.